Comments on: Dating Week: Red Flags

By: Lauren

Lauren — Fri, 26 Mar 2010 17:38:48 +0000

Date number two was driving to Walmart parking lot to pick him up, because he got stopped by police on the way to pick me up for driving drunk.
How did he not get a DUI? WTF?

The policeman asked him not to drive and to find a ride home…it was THEN that he told me he’s been in and out of rehab/AA…you name it!

By: kriskaten

kriskaten — Fri, 26 Mar 2010 15:42:18 +0000

wow, #5, still?
there are two sides to every story i suppose…
i am awesome at ignoring red flags till they bite me in the ass. i’m getting better – now when a guy tells me about their arrest and parole record on the first date, i bolt. on the second? depends on how cute he is. sigh.

By: J. Eric Smith

J. Eric Smith — Fri, 26 Mar 2010 04:26:20 +0000

I was a walking/talking red flag in my dating days . . . wrote a piece about that for Metroland nearly a decade ago, archived for posterity’s and embarrassment’s sake here: http://jericsmith.com/date.htm.

By: Noficazal

Noficazal — Fri, 26 Mar 2010 01:09:47 +0000

For me the only red flag I would see at this time would be attempts to move too quickly to carnal relations. Translating to, “I don’t really want a relationship, just said activities.”

The biggest red flags I raise are complete lack of any relationship experience at 27 and a nearly unhidable loneliness that leads to a bleak outlook on existance until it can be quelled.

I assume that my best friend sitting nearby me is not a flag at all, but rather perfectly normal. Said friend is a yellow electric mouse with a lightening shaped tail, two brown stripes on his back, pointed brown tipped ears, and two red electric pads on his face. Sorry had to add a little humor and I forgot the one I was originally going to add.

By: Laurel

Laurel — Thu, 25 Mar 2010 17:46:12 +0000

I’ve had several guys actually yell at me on dates for being taller than they are. Not only am I not inordinately tall, I’d met each one in person, so it wasn’t like my height was a shocker. If a guy rages out over something like genetics, I assume there’s a lot of other things he can’t handle. Dealbreaker!

By: Ellie

Ellie — Thu, 25 Mar 2010 01:15:28 +0000

A really shitty therapist said to me once upon a mentally manic time that we all wear masks to hide our flaws in the first few months of dating. We hide anything that could be unattractive; we don’t fart.

My red flag of late? Guys who do these little things that just assume I am somehow their’s in a personal relationship – peeing without the door shut, assuming he must no longer do nice little things to woo me, and most importantly making decisions about our lives as if we are married.

By: Michael (TCRPMG)

Michael (TCRPMG) — Wed, 24 Mar 2010 19:01:26 +0000

I feel so sorry for the girl you went on the date with. Without some good therapy, that is going to haunt her for the rest of her life. It will also ruin every date she goes on. That is so very sad.

As for you, Kevin, did you ever consider writing a book about dating? These are quite the wild/crazy/scary stories you have. I think you could definitely sell a few copies. Just sayin…

By: bklyn

bklyn — Wed, 24 Mar 2010 16:45:38 +0000

As GMAN has already learned…I have also learned to take what people tell you at the beginning of a relationship seriously. I had a friend’s date tell her he was used to getting his own way, always. She knows now to listen.

By: Darcy

Darcy — Wed, 24 Mar 2010 16:32:48 +0000

When women try to make you feel guilty for being inattentive before you’ve met for your first date or even expressed any kind of formal interest. Red Flag.

By: Kevin Marshall

Kevin Marshall — Wed, 24 Mar 2010 15:44:29 +0000

Gman (#1) – I’m pretty sure I dated her as well. Not literally, but you know.

Chuck (#4) – That is a FANTASTIC story.

Amanda (#11) – “There was no second date.” For you or the ex in labor? ;)