Comments on: The Not So Scary World of Online Dating

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By: Rose @Dozenroses13

Rose @Dozenroses13 — Mon, 05 Apr 2010 04:37:24 +0000

As #8 (Michael) said – we met on match.com 4 years ago.

For someone who wants to take online dating seriously I do suggest biting the bullet and paying for match.com. First off you’re more apt to meet someone else who’s serious about it. Second off, if you’re going to pay for a site, pay for the one that’s most heavily advertised and has the most traffic.

I also agree, be brutally honest.

Another tip – when I participated in online dating the first time I quickly learned that some guys out there just “picture shop” and send you messages, winks, etc. based on your picture. It was blatantly obvious that many of them hadn’t read a word of my profile. So my 2nd go around I set up my account so that no picture showed in the search, but there were pictures inside my post. So that weeded out the window shoppers, but if someone was serious they were able to find the picture to see if they were attracted after they read my profile.

I won’t lie and say all my dates were wonderful, but there was only 1 REAL PSYCHO, 1 weirdo, 1 cheap as hell creep and the rest were very cool. In fact – one of the guys I dated works at the TU and invited me to his wedding a couple years after our date :) So obviously I made some very good friends in the process as well :)

By: Lauren

Lauren — Fri, 26 Mar 2010 17:32:41 +0000

I’m quite thankful for internet dating. Otherwise I would not have met my fiance, who lived across town at the time.
He was new to Albany and neither of us went to bars “hooking” for dates, so the internet was great. It’s going on two years now. :)
Ironically, we had both just about “given up” on looking and he sent me a message and we just clicked and let it go from there.
It was amazing and a total cliche, cause I suddenly found out what “feeling like I’ve known you my whole life” felt like.

I had some icky dates with liars and cheaters BEFORE I met him though, I’ll admit. It is easier to lie on the web, but as long as you meet up front and can make your own estimation at someone’s honesty and character, I think it’s a great way to meet people.

By: Sally

Sally — Fri, 26 Mar 2010 02:17:37 +0000

I’ve been on match.com, okcupid.com and eharmony. The worst of all was Jdate.
I met Adam and things went well for a bit until I realized the chemistry was off and broke things off. Then I found out that he was dating two other girls.

Which leads me to the point that you must trust your gut with these things and that if you don’t feel the chemistry is right, don’t go any further. No matter what the website says about how perfect you are for each other, you are the judge of what’s right for you.

In the end, I’m still on the internet sites looking for a guy. Maybe I’ll find him there and maybe I won’t. But I’ve put myself out there.

By: Noficazal

Noficazal — Fri, 26 Mar 2010 01:02:32 +0000

I have only tried free online sites, mostly because of my rather bleak outlook on their success. If you don’t think something will work, you are less likely to want to spend money on it. I think I am too honest in my profiles, scaring people away. The only semi-connection I have had at all through any of the dating sites, okcupid, chemistry.com. lavalife, mingles …. has been with a Russian lady that needs me to send money for her to visit me here in the US. In case it is not obvious, this is pretty much one of the main dating scams on is apt to run into from research.

By: Ski

Ski — Thu, 25 Mar 2010 22:00:12 +0000

The advice I give to every one when it comes to online dating, is you need to go in with a sense of humor. If you sign up and expect to find the love of your life, a bad date can be absolutely heart breaking. But if you go in with the mind set, that you’re ready to meet new people, I find it’s a much more rewarding experience.

By: Courtney

Courtney — Thu, 25 Mar 2010 20:54:02 +0000

I met Tom (my husband) on salon.com He was actually the only guy I met on that site who I went on an actual in person date with. He paid, I didn’t. He is *so* unlike any other guy that I had ever dated, that I am not sure how we would have met any other way. My sister also met her husband online (not on a dating website, but in an online game) and my aunt also met her husband through a dating website (not sure which one). It has really become normal, which is interesting to me. When Tom and I were first dating (7 years ago, wow) it was sort of embarrassing to tell people where we had met. Now we don’t even hesitate, no one bats an eyelash.

By: Kevin Marshall

Kevin Marshall — Thu, 25 Mar 2010 20:48:39 +0000

Tom – that woman has messaged me several times on http://www.okcupid.com.

By: Tom Brophy

Tom Brophy — Thu, 25 Mar 2010 20:42:10 +0000

I wouldn’t be satisfied unless I found a person who could come between me and my shadow, seven foot tall and a mute able to handle a chain saw and weighing in at 110lbs. Hair color not important. Think I got a shot?

By: GenWar

GenWar — Thu, 25 Mar 2010 19:55:14 +0000

I have consistently had very poor service from every online dating service I have every tried. Most never let me past the ‘registration’ screen declaring me 100% unmatchable because I am in a special (and not so unique) group.

Frankly I was offended and have sworn off all of them as a result. Some people on twitter even said there are special sites for “people like (me)” which I find all the more offensive.

So, no, given my experiences, I cannot recommend online dating.

-gen