Comments on: It’s Complicated

By: Rose @Dozenroses13

Rose @Dozenroses13 — Mon, 17 May 2010 22:50:47 +0000

#20 RAM – You are what’s called “In A Relationship” on Facebook.

I think “it’s complicated” would be acceptable for someone who’s separated, though I agree with #10 Kari – technically they’re still married. I do get very annoyed when someone who’s separated presents them self as single. Separated is what I call “The Drama Zone.”

I can’t believe that Facebook doesn’t have separated as an option – hell, they even have “In an open relationship” – isn’t that the same as “it’s complicated?”

By: Jessica R

Jessica R — Fri, 23 Apr 2010 17:04:58 +0000

“Wait, when you change your facebook relationship status with someone else, doesn’t the other person have to “approve” it – thus making it also their status? Or is “It’s Complicated” not handled this way? Why does it have to be some complicated?!?! If the other person is forced to also have “It’s Complicated” then the whole “I’m screwing someone behind someone else’s back” thing is irrelevant.”

By: ram

ram — Fri, 23 Apr 2010 12:33:35 +0000

@2 It bothers me a little that you think single and married are the only options. I have been with my boyfriend for six (almost 7) years. We are not yet married because we want to wait until we have the money to really have a life. Yet since we began dating I have not once thought I would ever be with anyone else. So according to you I am single? How does that make sense? I am not open to anything other than marrying him when the time is right. But I’m not married yet. So I am in a relationship. Why is that a problem?

By: derryX

derryX — Fri, 23 Apr 2010 12:21:27 +0000

I’m pretty sure my current status could be classified as “It’s complicated” but I would never actually set it that way because all that does is open the door to uncomfortable questions and people wanting to know things they dont need to know.

It’s kind of akin to something I linked you to regarding a standup comedy routine by Nick Swardson. He does a bit about the absurdity of Myspace’s sexual orientation options, which, if you don’t know are “Straight,” “Gay,” “Bisexual,” or “Not Sure.” It’s actually a pretty hilarious joke.

By: Laura Northrup

Laura Northrup — Fri, 23 Apr 2010 00:12:15 +0000

I used to put my status as “It’s Complicated” with my hamster as a joke. I stopped when I realized people might misunderstand it in horrific ways.

By: mms

mms — Thu, 22 Apr 2010 19:11:17 +0000

I have a facebook page so don’t get me wrong, its a great way to catch up with old high school friends and other people I haven’t talked to in a long time. I guess I don’t understand how people can spend 5-6 hours a day on fb just trolling peoples’ pages. If you put “its complicated” on your page, it’s your business. The people who are on there judging you for writing “its complicated” are the same people who go to your page 3 or 4 times a day to see if you have put up any new posts, messages or pictures. If you think people are “seeking out attention” by writing these things, then stop going to their pages and staring at their pictures, profiles and posts and go outside and get some fresh air.

By: Awesomedude

Awesomedude — Thu, 22 Apr 2010 18:47:05 +0000

Here is my rubric:

If a dude has the complicated message up it means one of two things- his gf hasn’t broken up completely cleanly with the dude because he is being a crying baby about it…and they don’t want to acknowledge that its over…she’s banging some other guy etc.

Or two, she is banging some other dude…won’t commit to beginning a relationship and the (crybaby) dude is hoping by pretending there is a semblance of a relationship that it will eventually turn into one.

Both scenarios do some good however- they let everyone in the world know that the dude posting is not manly in any way shape or form…

Girls say its complicated for one reason and one reason only- they are banging some guy with a gf or who has made it clear he will never commit to them. By saying its complicated women are attempting to pretend their booty call status has some sort of sophistication. ‘Well its complicated, he’s on the road alot, we’re kind of at different points in our lives, I don’t have the emotional time to give, blah, blah, blah…’ Yes the world has a thousand Mr. Big’s, I’m one of them…you’re still just a piece of ace and nothing more.

Nietzsche once said women, like truth, should never be approached directly. Which is fine, women cheat and let themselves be booty calls all the time…they just don’t want to admit to it. Hence you get the its complicated…

By: Erin L

Erin L — Thu, 22 Apr 2010 16:14:29 +0000

I’m in agreement with the whole attention-seeking thing. It either is or it isn’t a relationship, and “it’s complicated” it begging for questions and screams “high school!”

Screw that.

By: Wendy V

Wendy V — Thu, 22 Apr 2010 15:46:15 +0000

See? I told you – it’s all about getting attention. Even negative attention is attention.

By: ggiuliano

ggiuliano — Thu, 22 Apr 2010 15:46:06 +0000

I know someone whose relationship status in FB suddenly changed from “married’ to “it’s complicated.” Naturally all the FB “friends” were curious. It really *was* complicated. He learned his wife had (and still has, this is a recent status change) a serious boyfriend, but had not moved out of the house yet and they were not legally separated. I believe it was his way of accepting it, and informing people that something happened without giving all of the details. OK by me.