Topics of conversation on a first date can be pretty tricky. Some say it’s a good idea to go with the same general rule one goes with in business in order to keep it polite and cordial: stay away from religion and politics.
First dates are a bit trickier, especially if you’re on a blind date. For some people, a person’s political leanings and religious beliefs can be deal breakers. Not that they’re bigoted or close-minded, but if those are the things you care deeply about, then it makes sense that they be guidelines in terms of compatibility in a relationship.
For others, such as myself, I’m a lot more open to other beliefs. Politically, I lean left. In terms of religion, I don’t belong to a denomination and am what could probably be best described as an atheist in the process of questioning his complete lack of faith. But I still find I can relate to and function to people regardless of their politics or religion, unless they’re an extremist or fundamentalist.
Still, I’m not apt to bring up my beliefs or stances on a first date unless I’m pressed to do so or I already have some sort of indication that our views on things line up. Compatibility is one thing, but I worry that people will often disqualify a potentially good match simply because of a disagreement that they may think is important, but wouldn’t be if taken into the context of who the other person is and all the other ways in which they are compatible. So you may not like that I voted for Obama, but you may enjoy pretty much every other aspect of my personality. So why not have that conversation at a later date, when you can approach it with a cooler head?
What do you think, folks? Do politics and religion get tabled until the second or third date, or do you get it out of the way right out of the gate?
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