The Vulture summed up the stuff about Tosh in a similar manner as I did, but (again) much more effectively:
First, let’s get a few quick things out of the way: (1) This is totally in keeping with Daniel Tosh’s humor and style. He’s a lousy Reddit thread come to life, which is why he is so popular! (Just ask Jeff Dunham.) (2) Don’t heckle comedians, no matter how offensive and crappy you think their material is. (3) There’s no such thing as off-limits in comedy, and comedians are always — always — entitled to make jokes about whatever they want. But “entitled to” and “obligated to” are not the same thing, and comedy is not immune to criticism.
The emphasis is mine, because those were my two primary points when I spilled digital ink over it on Tuesday. Unfortunately, because of the sensitive nature of the subject, some I talked to after the fact took what I said to mean that I make jokes about the act of rape itself, I think they’re great, I think that making jokes about rape is just swell, and/or I think it’s okay to do it at all.
But I never would and I don’t and I don’t and I don’t. To anyone else who thinks otherwise, read it again. Also come out to my shows because that ain’t my shit at all. I don’t know what else I can say to make it clearer: I don’t think they’re cool, if one’s ever been funny I certainly don’t remember it, and taboo subjects/tragedies without context aren’t jokes. Often they’re just incitement or provocation, and that alone does not constitute comedy.
Also, we need to take into consideration (and not shout down those who bring it up) the fact that this is just some random person on the internet giving her take on what went down. We probably shouldn’t take it as gospel, especially considering that Tosh and the club’s owners specifically said it didn’t go down at all like she said. And too often overlooked, even by myself at first, is that this is actually all secondhand anyway; the person posting it on her Tumblr is actually relaying it from her friend, who was the one who shouted out during the performance.
I’ve seen these points brought up in more than one forum, and invariably someone compared it to blaming a rape on the victim. To which I can only say that equivocating this incident with an actual rape isn’t all that much better than telling “jokes” about rape, and for God’s sake, let’s keep this in its proper context.
Speaking of which, in the follow-up post the author of the Tumblr writes:
My friend (who wishes to remain anonymous) is very surprised to have gotten any form of an apology and doesn’t wish to press any further charges against Daniel Tosh.
“Doesn’t wish to press any further charges?” Oh, c’mon.
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